What I say below will may mainly apply to those in corporate / office jobs.

What really puts me off is seeing a job description that says ‘able to work under pressure’ or ‘able to work in a fast-paced environment’. If the role is required to be under pressure, then surely you need more resources, no? If we’re talking about general pressure that usual comes with a job as expected, then fair enough but doesn’t every job have some type of pressure? The emphasis on ‘pressure’ in a job description is not really needed, or maybe I’m just overthinking this lol but you might as well just write ‘we are too selfish to hire more resources, so we want to stress you out with the constant extra pressure’ who’s up for this wonderful ambitious ‘opportunity’. Why can’t we just list the skills needed in order to fill the role? And the experience needed in order to fill the role?

We humans weren’t meant to live constantly bombarded with pressure.

I have respect to gen-z for not tolerating nonsense in the workplace and silently quitting. Most companies / organisation tend to be greedy pyramid schemes that benefit the people near / and at the top. The people at the bottom never seem to benefit. All the bottom staff get are pizza parties and website links to the companies Employee Assistant Programs. Even the therapy of Instagram and Tiktok can be better than going to a therapist sometimes – I’ve seen some therapists who just feel like a tick box exercises and no actual compassion.

Now for the workaholics who are passionate about work, just know that there is not one way to life, work is just work for some of us, some people have other things going on in their life that make them happy. Not everyone wants to spend hours of their lives doing something that they don’t want to do and this may sound depressing but none of us asked to be born.

For most of us, a job is just a job, nothing more and nothing less. I think mutual respect from both parties (workaholics and those who’s accepted that it’s just a job) needs to be brought to light cause the clash of mindsets seems to be evident. Some of us are at the point where we accept that this world works on a currency called money, so we just get on with our jobs to make money and survive (do I think there’s a better way? Not with this population count of 8 billion people unless we really work hard together as humans to create change in large community based compassionate approach where food, shelter, water etc is available with fair portions and we work as a community for the better of everyone, but that’s a stretch lol… There are always idiots who are self-serving greedy plebs. All survival movies such as The Walking Dead showed us this).

I personally think companies / organisations have to normalise not wanting to achieve an ‘ambitious career’ or make the default path a career progression or climbing the corporate ladder but give the option to staff, as long as the staff member is delivering the job to perfection with the right attitude, transparency and not taking the piss.

Also why can’t a psychology test be done beforehand? To filter out the narcissists or self-serving ego-centred people. I swear staff members like this just make things difficult for everyone.

I’ve seen some people in workplaces still don’t understand the concept of healthy boundaries and they don’t understand that you don’t have to be overly nice to not be a grumpy miserable person but you can still be neutral level-headed person and have manners whilst delivering your duties to perfection, and who knows, maybe that worker may want to progress on their own accord, but that’s just my opinion. Not sure why we humans make things difficult and not sure why healthy expectations and boundaries can be so difficult in a workplace.

To the companies that want to hire a passionate person, you have to accept that this is the reality of the human population. Not everyone is passionate about your company aspirations, ‘values’ and ‘goals’, and not everyone wants to progress. Have you seen the job market and cost of living? We’re cooked lol. If you’re trying to find a perfect fit who aligns with your company ‘values’, then good luck trying to find that right fit, but I can guarantee you that majority of us humans just need work due to this economic pressure to need money to survive and get by. The majority of the people you’re interviewing are just putting on a front to make ends meet so we have to stop pretending on both sides (the employer and employee).

In summary, I hope this outdated belief will eventually die and we can all just be transparent with each other in a workplace. Thankfully in my workplace our work culture is already at this point and level of mutual respect is already here.

If you need more resources, then hire more? Work out your budgets and finances? Always try to find solutions rather than trying to sweep the core issues under the rug. I used to work in finance and realised that companies always have this need to underspend but also not overspend, like bruh… As if another £30k to £60k annual salary + on costs will make a difference to your underspend.

Preparation is key for those who struggle with applying to jobs

I’m sure this has been said all around the internet but for those who struggle with applying to jobs. Here are my personal suggestions.

Build your confidence through subconscious reprogramming:

I’d suggest listening to daily affirmations to reprogram your subconscious mind – it will build your self-confidence over time. Our decisions, actions, habits, and beliefs are controlled by around 90% of our subconscious mind. Every day will eventually build up and you will notice the difference in your overall state of being and confidence in a few weeks. Such an underrated thing to do in my opinion. Playing affirmations in a meditative state will be better.

Preparation in your answers:

Using the S.T.A.R. method to answer questions and preparing your answers that you’ll be saying advance https://capd.mit.edu/resources/the-star-method-for-behavioral-interviews/

I’d suggest using past experiences where you’ve excelled in some type of way.

(or what the heck, just exaggerate. That’s what these companies do with their ‘benefits’ anyways. The audacity to be listing annual leave and ‘competitive pay’ as a benefit in job adverts lol)

If there’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s how you carry yourself with confidence without arrogance, and keep a calm composure and knowing your own experiences like the back of your hand – all soft skills are transferrable to any job if you just know how to deliver this in an application form and interview. Hard skills is what you really need to research and learn if you’re doing a career change.

Also let’s normalise not feeling obliged to go to staff outings. Sometimes we just don’t feel like seeing our colleagues for more hours than our contracted hours. It’s sad that some of us still feel guilt tripped into force bonding with colleagues. We need to bring back bonding on our own accords, in a natural state.

Transparency, communication, trust and respect both ways are key if we want things to change. Aren’t we all here just to make a living to live life?